Archive | July, 2010

My feelings today

31 Jul

Today has just been the kind of day I’d like to forget. Between not sleeping and family stuff going on that I can’t change, I have now been forced emotionally to move on to a different place. Not by choice, but a place that has now given me more clarity and peace because there are no discussions or arguments.

The problem has reinforced my Cerebral Palsy issues a little and although I know I have done as much as I can to bring some positivity back, the lack of support from those who should have …

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Self-acceptance/2

30 Jul

As a child I never took the time to think about myself, I was too busy trying to find acceptance by those around me. How many of us really take time to do that? I also think self-acceptance comes from learning to appreciate who we are, rather than concentrating on outward appearances.

Learning to appreciate who we are, helps us deal with self-esteem issues and society plays its part too because it tells us that it is important to look good, but the biggest point we all seem to be …

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Self-acceptance

29 Jul

When I was little I’d never heard of self-acceptance let alone learn to work through the concept.

Self-acceptance allows us to take control of our lives, allows us to move on from the past, gives us confidence. Self-acceptance also shows others the need for respect, it gives us empowerment …

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Accepting ourselves

28 Jul

I have written a journal here on the site, but not in great detail about how we are not always accepting of ourselves, because others are less than accepting of us, because of disability or some other things we may have to deal with.

If there is one thing that my life has taught me through my own struggles with living and dealing with what I know to be Cerebral Palsy, it’s that we cannot always change what we deal with …

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Take a break

28 Jul

How many of us sit in our office but never leave our desks? Perhaps it’s time for us to change that; go for a walk and clear your mind.

Take everything concerning work away from your thoughts so that you’re just thinking pleasant thoughts. If you mind wanders back to work stuff, redirect it back to those pleasant thoughts …

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Trauma – asking for help

27 Jul

How many of us exist without giving thought as to why we’re not happy? We may have experienced trauma, but just don’t know how to deal with it? I don’t think we ever come away from our childhood with our thoughts totally in tact. I know I didn’t. In my early 30’s when I stopped to think about how I really felt about things, I put myself into therapy.

If months have gone by and you’re still not feeling on top of the world, it’s probably time to think about getting help. The obvious signs we need help are us having difficulties concentrating …

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Trauma – grieving

26 Jul

Grieving is something that we all experience at some point in our lives. When my mum died 3 years ago I was lucky enough not to have to go through the grieving process, because I understood why my mother had to leave. I appreciate that doesn’t happen for everyone. I know she is around me and I draw comfort from knowing that she is.

When we lose someone we temporarily go through a loss of security, especially if the person we lose was very instrumental in our lives. For those who survive trauma, they will go through the …

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Symptoms of Trauma

25 Jul

From my own experience it’s not easy to know or recognize the symptoms of trauma (whether emotional or psychological). I lived with trauma but looking back didn’t know it was trauma. Obviously it will depend on the severity of the trauma, but the symptoms if you have them may last from days, to weeks or even months and years.

Emotional trauma symptoms

There are many emotional symptoms that relate to trauma, such as shock; disbelief and denial; irritability; mood swings and anger; shame; guilt and self-blame, feeling hopeless or sad …

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Trauma – risk factors

24 Jul

Various factors need to be taken into consideration when assessing the risks that surround someone’s vulnerability to trauma. Not all traumatic events will lead to emotional and psychological damage, because not everyone will see a traumatic experience as being traumatic.

Some of us may bounce back because we accept its happened, as part of life’s journey. Others may be completely devastated by something that appears less upsetting by someone else. There are …

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What is Trauma?

23 Jul

Having struggled with trauma for most of my life, I felt it would be helpful if I wrote about what trauma is in more detail. To take some form of control back, we must do some soul searching on what we’re struggling with.

As already briefly explained, trauma is something that is brought about through a stressful event that perhaps …

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