Archive | October, 2012

Being objectionable

31 Oct

Have you ever been around someone who is so objectionable you feel you just want to walk away? For those of us who often have no choice and are left to pick up the pieces it’s the hardest job in the world for us to continue to make peace with that person. I have seen first hand time what happens when someone is so objectionable.

Unfortunately, when people become so objectionable, others will stop trying with them; they’ll stop helping; they’ll walk away and if they don’t walk away, they’ll be the last in the queue when it comes …

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A happy disposition

30 Oct

We all have genetic predispositions that determine our state of happiness, which is why some of us are generally speaking happier than others.

However good we are at adapting to our circumstances, it’s our circumstances that usually take their toll on how we feel about our lives and what we deal with… and that determines how happy and content we are in ourselves.

We’re all born with genetic predispositions,, but our circumstances, environmental considerations and family play their part in determining our general state of happiness …

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Joy of life

29 Oct

Something inspirational:

“Those who make compassion an essential part of their lives find the joy of life. Kindness deepens the spirit and produces rewards that cannot be completely explained in words …

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Far from perfect

28 Oct

Given what I write, it may seem that I have the perfect life… but the truth is it’s far from perfect. I have always had to deal with my emotions in one way or another ever since I was a small child. Each scenario bring different emotions; we’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll be frustrated; we’ll get angry or perhaps we’ll even get annoyed. I run with frustration quite a bit, not surprisingly given my family background. Today my father’s health has come back into the limelight. I’m still looking for peace and a resolve on issues in my less …

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Wounds and healing

27 Oct

Something inspirational:

“Wounding and healing are not opposites. They’re part of the same thing. It is our wounds that enable us to be compassionate with the wounds of others. It is our limitations that make us kind to the limitations of other people. It is our loneliness that helps us to find other people …

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Other people’s decisions

26 Oct

I believe it takes time, effort and energy to make a decision, but we use even more energy when we sit on the fence.

Unfortunately when we sit on the fence we’re usually in conflict over making a decision; we’re in two minds and just can’t decide. When we can’t decide we waste time, effort and energy… as well as living with the frustration of not being able to make a decision. We certainly have no peace when we choose to sit on the fence.

I grew up around people sitting on the fence. When we leave it to others to decide, we give …

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Life’s complications

25 Oct

I personally don’t believe life is complicated, I believe we make our lives more complicated than it has to be.

We literally complicate our lives instead of simplifying what we do or choose to have in it. We complicate matters further by making our issues and/or problem worse than they really are and choose …

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How to be humble

24 Oct

Something inspirational:

“With humility comes the willingness to stop trying to control or change other people or life situations or events ostensibly ‘for their own good’. To be a committed spiritual seeker, it is necessary to relinquish the desire to be ‘right’ or of imaginary value to society …

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Building blocks of confidence

23 Oct

It is my belief that confidence is something that we all have to constantly work at.

It’s not something I had in abundance as a child and to a certain extent still struggle with now… but I’m getting better at recognising the signs. How we feel is usually how we act. When we feel good and confident about ourselves, we’ll feel good about others too.

If parents get it right, they become the main source of a child’s sense of self-worth and confidence. I am frustrated sometimes because this wasn’t something that was afforded to me. …

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The cold shoulder

22 Oct

Have you ever been given the cold shoulder for something you’ve said, or are constantly being ignored by someone but you have no idea why?

Nine times out of ten it’ll be nothing to do with what you’ve done or said. Most people are trying to deal with their own lives with their own issues and don’t have time to make contact. It would be wrong to assume someone’s giving us the cold shoulder, but asking if there is something wrong is usually the way forward.

I’d rather know what I’ve done wrong so I can put the problem right than …

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