Archive | November, 2012

People’s expectations

30 Nov

From the minute we’re born expectations are upon us. For some expectations are about education, for others expectations are about children being settled, in a marriage with a family.

Like an underlying current, expectations continue to envelop us as we grow. Communities; parents; extended families; the environment and school all have expectations of us. It’s also a generation …

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Taking control

29 Nov

Something inspirational:

“From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling sister-in-law, you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power …

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Doing the right thing

28 Nov

I spent my formative years doing the right thing by family, but is doing the right thing the right thing to do?

I believe it depends. Not all circumstances fit. The right thing may not be the right thing for someone else, even though it’s right for you. Doing the right thing may also be the wrong thing for the person doing the right thing. I got into the habit of feeling bad for saying no so never did, but I also know it’s not always to say no when someone has asked …

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Inappropriate behaviour

27 Nov

I remember being brought to task on my behavior if ever it was deemed inappropriate.

As soon as we’re old enough to talk, we’re taught how we should behave. We have rules in school, we have rules in the work place, in society and we have the mandatory social etiquette rule, which we’re taught by our parents from an early age.

Even if we’re taught about social etiquette, there will always be those who adjust their behavior to suit themselves. Generally speaking, children will usually conform if what’s being taught is reinforced and …

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A man’s fate

26 Nov

Something inspirational:

“What a man thinks of himself, that is what determines, or rather indicates his fate.”

Henry David Thoreau

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The nature of illness

25 Nov

Illness tends to bring out the worst in people, particularly for those with the illness and for the people who have to deal with those dealing with their illness. Illness doesn’t make anything easy, they can be very stressful situations. With a good night’s sleep; I’m hoping we’ll all be back on form tomorrow. Of course, it’s that time of year again, so for anyone …

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Inner confidence

24 Nov

We should all be able to talk to our parents about things that affect us. After my own discussions about my childhood and my life up to this point, for the first time I feel I now have an inner confidence, based on the discussions… that I’ve never had.

It must seem odd to some that having got myself through my studies and starting The CP Diary two and a half years ago, that must all take confidence! For me it wasn’t about confidence, it was about my determination to do something that would change the way I felt about all the issues …

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About life

23 Nov

Something inspirational:

“Life doesn’t give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need; to help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you, and to make you into the person you were meant to be.”

UNKNOWN

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Navigating relationships

22 Nov

Unfortunately navigating relationships seems to have become part of every day life.

For some of us having to deal with people using manipulation to get where they want and telling lies, all bring about many challenges. From my own experience, it is usually the challenges in relationships …

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Friendship traits

21 Nov

Have you ever found yourself gravitating towards your friend’s traits? It has been proven statistically that the traits your friends have will become your traits within 5 years. From my own experience, this is something I find to be true.

It’s fine if your friends are caring, compassionate, successful, healthy and positive, you’d never want to part from them, but what if your friends are negative, passive, irritable and leave you feeling completely drained, then what?

Speaking from experience it’s never easy making the ultimate decision on any friendship. There is always an element of guilt …

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