We need to change

Unfortunately, if others don’t see an issue in their actions, they will never change. All we can do is change the way we see their actions. Their actions will always be their actions, without them recognising their need to change.

For as many years as I spent in counselling trying to sort out my childhood issues, brought about by family’s actions …

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31 Mar, 2015

Baggage & relationships

The emotional baggage we carry from our childhood into our relationships is the main reason why relationships often fail. Emotional baggage are just two words that have masses of implications and is the main reason why relationships fail, particularly when we ignore the fact that we carry baggage.

As we fail to acknowledge we even have baggage, relationships will always continue to fail. I don’t believe any of us come through our childhood completely unscathed, but whereas some of us will …

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28 Mar, 2015

Rewriting history

As some of us re-write history with one conversation, others will continually re-write history as it becomes a way of life.

If you were to ask me what I did yesterday, I’d struggle to remember. My short-term memory is poor, but my long-term memory is excellent. I always remember conversations as if they took place …

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27 Mar, 2015

It matters

It used to bother me that when I looked in the mirror and I was standing straight, I was lopsided. I couldn’t quite get over that.

Now it bothers me that I live with scoliosis and that I’ve been living with it since the age of 25, but that I only found out less than a year ago. I remember going to the consultation with my father at 25 …

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25 Mar, 2015

Does disability define us?

Does disability define us? Unconsciously, disability does, unless we choose to consciously opt out. I have chosen to cut out a niche that doesn’t bring my disability into the equation.

I’m not embarrassed by it, I don’t allow myself to hide behind it and I don’t use my disability as a tool for my writing, because I choose to write from the soul instead. It would also make it difficult …

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24 Mar, 2015

Owning change

We want change, but we don’t want to change the process, make the time or the effort. We want change, but aren’t willing to put in the hard work. We know we’ve got too much to work through and therefore become less interested in change.

I don’t believe we’re not, not interested in change, but when it becomes too difficult, we let go of our need to change. Sadly, some of us won’t always recognise we need to change. Others won’t …

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22 Mar, 2015