Negative pre-conditioning

Anyone can change the way they see themselves, or their world. We’re all capable of change, changing our core inner beliefs, upon which we base our view of the world, ourselves and other people.

The reason why it’s slightly more difficult is that our beliefs are usually based around our negative pre-conditioning brought about through childhood. But we must work on the root cause of our negative pre-conditioning, …

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30 Sep, 2017

Humble beginnings

We’re either embarrassed, or we know and understand our background and roots, but choose to deny all knowledge, or that was our existence.

I remember a conversation I had with a friend as a child, when we were talking about our parents and what they did for a living. Obviously embarrassed she denied everything about her father’s job and swiftly changed topic. I found it sad.

I think if more of us were more accepting of our roots, we’d be living better lives, communicating better and feeling better about ourselves. The reality is that whilst …

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29 Sep, 2017

Learning to listen

We listen on our own terms. We listen, not to understand or to hear, but to jump at the opportunity for us to speak again, whether that means agreeing to what’s being said, or by putting in our penny’s worth.

We take conversations the way we want them to go. It’s all about us. But perhaps we should be thinking about our connections and how when we superficially listen and we superficially connect …

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28 Sep, 2017

Sticks and stones

As a child growing up with anger issues centred around my physical and emotional issues, it was easy for others to blame me for something they did.

If like me growing up you got blamed and weren’t always believed, it’s possible that you would always continue to struggle. My mum would often recite the ‘sticks and stones may break my bones …

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26 Sep, 2017

Recognising our feelings

Sadly, not many of us do it, but by using introspection, by observing our own mental and emotional processes, we can help ourselves recognise our thoughts and feelings at any given time. Only then will we begin to recognise the feelings that are making us unhappy.

Research indicates that by accepting that we have negative feelings, can increase our wellbeing. That by accepting we may be feeling unhappy, angry, or disappointed, will also reduce stress levels …

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24 Sep, 2017

I was angry, not bitter

The neglect, my emotional and physical difficulties and the not knowing I had Cerebral Palsy made me angry as a child and years on I’m still having to work through my symptoms.

I wouldn’t have been normal if I didn’t get angry. Sadly for me, my anger made me a scapegoat for other people’s problem. It was easy to blame me because I was angry. It also made it more plausible …

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22 Sep, 2017