I believe there needs to be a level of acceptance in our lives regardless of what we deal with. Without acceptance of any kind, emotionally we will stagnate.
When we learn to accept the things we deal with, we break the cycle of being stuck. That most things we deal with are brought about by our state of mind. If we work on our state of mind, we can and will eventually reconcile.
For some of us the problem is that we know we should reconcile, but a part of us still wants what we know they can’t have. It doesn’t matter whether you live with something from birth, or something in your life that happens, there must still be a level of acceptability.
There is a train of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier for you to live with, because you don’t know any different and to some extent that’s true, but the flip side to the coin is that if you’re fully aware others are more normal, it doesn’t stop you thinking that you should have been afforded the same privilege too.
For me there isn’t a right or wrong way of thinking. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what I think, in the same way I don’t have a monopoly on what others think on what they deal with.
I have days where I find a certain acceptance and days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with. On those days I still need to work through my emotions and that again makes me begin to question my acceptance and places a question mark next to it.
But acceptance needs to happen if we are going to have any chance of moving forward. I constantly strive to do both.