I believe there needs to be a level of acceptance in our lives regardless of what we deal with.
Without acceptance of any kind, emotionally we will stagnate. When we learn to accept that we deal with what we deal with; we break the cycle of being stuck. Of course, there are things that we can change and being able to change those things will help us move ourselves into a better head space; but that is not always an option we have open to us.
There are things we would like to change but sometimes they are best left as they are because to change them might bring about more unease. I believe that most things we usually deal with are brought about by our state of mind. If we work on our state of mind, I believe we can and will eventually come to reconcile.
For some, the problem is that they know they should reconcile, but a part of them still wants what they know they can’t have. Since I was little, I always knew that I was living with physical issues, even though I didn’t know exactly what the issues were, but a part of me wanted to be the same as my brother and sisters.
I believe it doesn’t really matter whether you live with something from birth, or something in your life happens that changes the way you look, there still has to be a level of acceptability.
There is also another train of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier to live with, because you don’t know any different and to some extent that’s true, but the flip side to the coin, is that if you’re fully aware others are more normal, it doesn’t stop you thinking that you should have been afforded the privilege too.
For me there isn’t a right or wrong way of thinking. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what I think, in the same way I don’t have a monopoly on what others think on what they deal with.
I have days where I find a certain acceptance and days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with. On those days I still need to work through my emotions and that again makes me begin to question my acceptance and places a question mark next to it.
Of course, acceptance needs to happen if we are going to have any chance of moving forward. I am constantly striving to do both.