I believe we must have a level of acceptance on our experiences regardless of what we deal with, because without an acceptance of any kind, emotionally we will stay stuck.
When we learn to accept what we’ve had to deal with, we break the cycle of being stuck. There will be things that we can change and being able to change those things will help us move ourselves into a better head space; but that’s not always an option we have open to us. But most things we deal with are brought about by our state of mind.
If we work on our state of mind we can and should eventually come to reconcile. For some of us, we know we should reconcile, but a part of us still wants what we know we can’t have. Since I was little girl, I always knew that I was different, living with some sort of physical and emotional problem, even though I didn’t know exactly what it was, but it still didn’t stop me wanting to be the same as my brother and sisters.
It doesn’t matter whether you live with something from birth, or something in your life that happens and changes the way you look, there must still be a level of acceptability that you can work with. There is also a train of thought that says if you’re born with something it should be easier to live with because you don’t know any different.
To some extent that’s true, but the other side of the coin is that if you’re fully aware others are normal, it doesn’t stop you thinking that you want what they have, particularly if your disability is mild.
For me there isn’t a right or wrong way of thinking. It’s down to us as individuals. No one has a monopoly on what I think, in the same way I don’t have a monopoly on what others think. I have days where I find a certain acceptance and days when I wake up with the burden of what I deal with.
On those days, I still need to work through my emotions and that again makes me begin to question my acceptance and places a question mark next to it. Of course, acceptance needs to happen if any of us are going to have any chance of moving forward. I am constantly striving to do both.