When we can’t see, or equate how we feel with how others have made us feel, then we know we’re emotionally damaged. It would go on to take me many years to see or understand that I was.
It took countless guilt trips, until one day the penny dropped that the guilt I’d been carrying for all those years, wasn’t mine to carry. That our environment and the people in it, affect the way we feel about ourselves and how we go on to look at our accomplishments.
I thought I’d failed, that others looking at my achievements would think the same thing, because there was nothing concrete for them to see, but now I believe differently. I was very much a success. I’d survived neglect and emotional abuse and that very much made me a success.
It’s also incredibly sad that families, people and society, place too much emphasis on education and use that to measure how successful their children become and that’s not it. Well perhaps it’s a part of it, but not all. Being good at passing exams is just one element. For us to continue to be successful, we must learn to communicate well.
We must also offer an open hand, be caring, compassionate, open and honest. Those are the qualities that will bring about success, with what the universe anticipates or expects from us. That should be our measure of success. Too much emphasis is placed on our achievements and if you haven’t achieved, others believe you’ve failed.
When we pass over, people see our achievements as our success stories, more than they see the person. What I have managed to achieve through my site is of course my success story, but what it took for me to get to have this success is more important. Without my struggles, I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing now.
Perhaps we need to measure people’s success, not by what we see but what they went through to meet with that success.