Support is great if you live amongst those who can give you support, but not everyone will have the ability to act as one.
I believe our experiences are instrumental and will always have a marked effect on our ability to support other people. In times of difficulty it becomes obvious who isn’t a support. People often find practical support easier than the emotional kind. My mum was very practical.
Although the practical side is definitely the easiest form of support for people to achieve, it is also the more time consuming. I believe that although we all need emotional support, helping out in practical ways helps take away some of our stress.
‘Always think about our formative years, because our formative years are the catalyst for all of what we deal with in our adult life.’ If we are emotionally supported through our formative years, we will be more inclined to want to act as a support to others when they need it the most.
The positive point to all of this is that it’s something we can all learn to do. Just because we’ve never had support, doesn’t mean we will never achieve it. It may just take us longer to work through the logistics of how it can be achieved.