A question of support

Support is great if you live amongst those who can give you support, but not everyone will have the ability to act as one.

I believe our experiences are instrumental and will always have a marked effect on our ability to support other people. In times of difficulty it becomes obvious who isn’t a support. People often find practical support easier than the emotional kind. My mum was very practical.

Although the practical side is definitely the easiest form of support for people to achieve, it is also the more time consuming. I believe that although we all need emotional support, helping out in practical ways helps take away some of our stress.

‘Always think about our formative years, because our formative years are the catalyst for all of what we deal with in our adult life.’ If we are emotionally supported through our formative years, we will be more inclined to want to act as a support to others when they need it the most.

The positive point to all of this is that it’s something we can all learn to do. Just because we’ve never had support, doesn’t mean we will never achieve it. It may just take us longer to work through the logistics of how it can be achieved.


25 Jul, 2012

4 thoughts on “A question of support

  1. That’s one of the good things about my family. We are there for each other in emotional and practical ways.

    I try to support people the best I can and it is harder when you don’t live close, so you give support the best way you know how.

    1. You’re on one of the lucky ones. From my own experience not everyone has that support network.

      It is harder of course when family aren’t on the doorstep, but we do what we can when we can and as you say Lisa in the best way we know how. I’m pleased for you.

  2. I never got any support of any kind when I was younger. I was just left to my own devices so virtually raised myself in an emotional and practical vacuum.

    That has certainly shown me how not to do it as a parent and I enjoy taking an interest in my children and their well being.

    I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    1. Although we experience negative values in our formative years, you’ve shown how something negative can turn into something positive. Your parents missed out on good times.

      It’s lovely as parents to be able to take an interest in our children’s life and accomplishments. I agree with you.

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