People will always see children as a reflection of their parents. Whilst I don’t agree that parents are entirely to blame as children come into contact with many more influences, the buck stops with us.
Children are in school five days a week for a number of years, so it stands to reason that as parents we have less control over other people’s decisions around our children, their influences and how they deal with our children.
The people and influences our children come into contact with will shape their view of the world as well as being responsible for their change in behavior and perceptions. Couple that with peer pressure and the child you left at the school gate, isn’t the child coming home at the end of the school day.
It’s not that parents won’t have an influence on their children, but this is often diluted and tempered with other external influences. As long as the right foundations are in place and children are brought into line where necessary, there shouldn’t be a problem, as long as children don’t go off the rails and begin to make unwise choices for themselves.
Unfortunately, the choices our children make will always have a reflection on us. My mum used to tell me the exact same thing. When things go wrong it’s the parents that are responsible. As for other people, perhaps they need to see and understand the bigger picture first.
Emotionally, we all have things that we deal with, sometimes those things are not always obvious, but they’re there. There are reasons behind all of our choices.