I used to spend my time as a child thinking about whether other people would like me, but now I know now there are plenty of people who generally don’t pay attention to us.
They’re probably too concerned about what people think of them, but it doesn’t stop us worrying they don’t like us. For those who do notice and judge us, they’re probably not the people we’d want to be friends with.
I believe the problem stems from how we feel about ourselves, how we see people and the world, not necessarily from others judging us. They’ve probably not said anything or behaved inappropriately, but seeing them somehow reinforces how we feel about ourselves.
In a fleeting moment, having Cerebral Palsy made me think that I wasn’t good enough. Subconsciously I must have been honing in on self-negativity, whilst perceiving people in the same way. I had no confidence, no support and low self-esteem.
But when we come to accept ourselves, we begin to perceive others more positively. That when we’re more accepting of ourselves, any negative thoughts about how others perceive us, don’t exist.
Being accepting of ourselves, is more important than others being accepting of us. Even though we live amongst others, it’s still more important we learn to live amongst ourselves.