How many people use blame to excuse the way they behave, particularly when they blame or say something that other people may consider hurtful? Blame is like anger. It allows a person to behave or act in a way that isn’t justified.
We develop a thought pattern that sends our emotions into override, we lose self-control, the result being we go on to say comments that hurt. There are many reasons why we do it. We may see our parents do it, a bad habit picked up.
But it’s important we learn the importance of taking responsibility without apportioning blame or lashing, just because we struggle or we can. Once we start with the cycle of blame, it’s something we find difficult to stop.
Whilst it’s not something we also consciously think about, subconsciously we use blame as a means of control. We tend to use blame as a means of defence, when we can’t admit to our own failings or mistakes.
We tend to use blame as a means of failing to accept certain situations that have happened in the past. But when we begin to recognise, deal with and begin to accept those situations, we begin to accept responsibility.