Are we ever good enough?

We are what we’re told. Of course, if we hold on to those thoughts for long enough, we’ll eventually begin to believe we are all of what we’re told. And depending on our upbringing, we either come to believe we’re good enough, or we believe we’re not.

When it came to my physical and emotional issues, there were times when I would fall prey to my own negative thinking and knew I needed to think positive thoughts. Around confident people I struggled to believe I was good enough.

Now I feel differently of course. If I fall short of my own expectations, I use those experiences as a learning curve to build my confidence. I have come to understand, my life and my abilities, anything that has the potential to stop me from believing in myself.

For that reason, I believe it’s important for us to hold on to nothing, so that issues don’t hold on to us and belittle how we feel about ourselves. Instead, we must continually work on ourselves so that we emotionally evolve and come to believe we are good enough, regardless of our starting point.

There will always be stressful times where we begin to doubt our worthiness, but having come full circle on that, I believe we are.


8 Jan, 2016

6 thoughts on “Are we ever good enough?

  1. It is very hard living with the constant thought of ‘I’m not worthy, in the back of your mind!

    When you grow up in an environment where nothing you do seems to matter, it leaves you with the sense of why even bother? I often wonder what it would have been like to have had loving, supportive parents. Maybe I could have accomplished a lot more in my lifetime.

    It would have been nice, but it didn’t happen, so I have to make the best of now, so I don’t squander what time I have left. People often act like I’m so horrible for the way I talk about my parents, but they didn’t have to go through my childhood.

    I realized that yesterday when I mentioned some things to my girlfriend about my childhood that were very traumatic! It was like a constant episode of Jerry Springer that didn’t seem to bother them at all. It’s no wonder I’m desensitized to traumatic events that would make most normal people lose their minds.

    The line between good and bad was often blurred if not nonexistent! It’s no wonder that I ended up in the condition I did, which a lot of people don’t come back from!

    I just have to try to remember every morning that I am worthy and I was only human.

    1. Thanks Randy. You may not have supportive parents, but you’re you and that accounts for everything.

      You may not have been equipped to cope fully with life and what life throws at you, but you have a good heart and that accounts for something.

      Having loving and supportive parents, can make a difference but there are so many influences in our lives as we grow, those outside influences can often change us in so many ways.

      I believe because you’ve had such a traumatic childhood and because you’ve experienced life so differently, you’re more sensitive to other people’s needs. You see a lot more than someone without those experiences.

      You recognise a lot more than someone without those negative experiences and that’s not altogether bad. That doesn’t make what happened right with your parents, it just makes it what it is. But it allows you to see your life from a different lens.

      It’s important now that you try to let go of some of those experiences, so you can feel worthy. You have a lot to give. I believe you’re good enough, but you have to start believing that you are too.

  2. Our individual stories had a way of destroying our self esteem. I was the little engine that couldn’t before I was the little engine that could; I just wasn’t good enough for me.

    But there’s something unique about loving yourself, as we’ll never be good enough for anything or anybody until we do.

    1. Thanks Tim. Do you think that perhaps you were good enough, you just didn’t see it back then?

      Our upbringing tends to get in the way, but that doesn’t always mean we’re not capable. We’re either just not seeing it, or we’re held back for whatever reason.

      Maturity and confidence often shows us the way, even if we have to do it without family support and agree with you that we must love ourselves first before we can be good enough for anything or anybody.

  3. I have always struggled with low self esteem. My disability has made me feel less than others. It has taken me a a while, but I have gained a bit of self esteem.

    I still need to continue working on it; I still occasionally have feelings of self doubt. I just need to continue working on it and I am sure later it will be easier for me.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes disability is a big reason why people struggle with low self-esteem. Low self-esteem unfortunately plays a part in low self-worth.

      I am pleased you’re feeling a little better about yourself. I think with the right support in place, I don’t see why we cannot build on our confidence and change that sense of self-worth.

      I believe you’re good enough and have much to give, more so because you know what it’s like to deal with something that changes the way you look at yourself, other people and the world.

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