Are we really happy?

I was asked the question recently about what makes me happy and I couldn’t quite answer the question straight without going round the houses a few times.

Without putting a total damper on things, when we’ve lived with trauma and conditions attached to our lives, I don’t believe we own that particular feeling. True happiness is a soul thing. It comes from the soul. It’s what our sole has or hasn’t had. If our soul has and continues to be nurtured, we will be happy.

I feel blessed to have my family in my life and blessed that I’m doing what I love to do in the shape of the Diary, but inwardly there is no getting away that I have lived with trauma. Trauma has been my life. It’s not to say given half the chance I wouldn’t jump at the chance of having lived a different life, but I would have had to have a different start, with different people around me for that to happen.

I do the best with what I’ve been given. Happiness isn’t something we just accrue when we feel like it. Stress also adds to how we feel, which is probably why retail therapy doesn’t work, because unless you correct what is fundamentally wrong with your life or how you feel, inwardly you will never know what being happy means.

It’s not that someone can’t make you happy, because people can, but unless you take out all the other factors you started with and still live with, you’re never going to be truly happy. When our lives are conditioned, our soul is conditioned and it’s that conditioning that stops us from being genuinely happy.

We must try to dig deep and peel back the layers. Take away any daily stress, surround and continue to surround ourselves with people that we know can make us happy and make a difference, where we didn’t have that before.

I believe if we don’t feel happy in our soul, we haven’t experienced true happiness. Unfortunately, everything we feel outwardly comes from our soul. I can’t stress that enough.


11 Mar, 2016

4 thoughts on “Are we really happy?

  1. I don’t think I remember actually ever being happy, so I don’t know what that feeling really is!

    I spent most of my life just trying to survive and feelings weren’t very important when they can be used against you. People think that stuff will make them happy, but if you aren’t happy with yourself, it doesn’t do any good.

    I have actually hated myself for most of my life for mistakes I made when nobody really showed me how to do things the right way. They mostly piled on tons of baggage from generations past that wasn’t mine to begin with and made my life a living hell.

    My biggest hope at this point is just to be able to be comfortable in my own skin!

    1. Thanks Randy. You’re right, mistakes made by our parents are passed down by our parents parents through the generations, until we get to change them!

      Unless we consciously choose to change our lives and I believe that needs to happen here, I’m not sure we can be happy in the true sense.

      I have yet to meet anyone who is truly happy all of the time, but it would be lovely to think we can settle for a little bit of happiness somewhere along the way.

  2. We were born crying instead of laughing, perhaps we felt something amiss from the very beginning. So we camouflage our unhappiness until our hair is gone and rely on things hoped for instead.

    But my happiness matters greatly to me and the next phase of my life is depending on it.

    1. Thanks Tim. You’ve given a good analogy of where trauma begins, but I’m not sure whether it’s the act of being born, which in itself can be traumatic, or whether it stems from our before life, before we enter this world. There would have to be more research done for us to understand it completely.

      It’s lovely to know that your happiness matters to you greatly. I believe more of us need to think like that. I think that if took all the earthly trappings out of the equation, we’d be happier. I also think we rely too heavily on our unconscious thoughts.

      If more of us chose to interact better, we would create better environments. Creating better environments means we would create a better atmosphere; creating a better atmosphere would create a better mood.

      It stands to reason that if our moods were better, we’d feel and be happier in ourselves.

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