Poor me syndrome

Regardless of my physical and emotional issues, I never allowed myself to be drawn into the poor me syndrome. I’m not sure why, I just never did.

I seemed to withdraw to another place where I was always calm and when I was out of that place I was  always angry. I still didn’t equate my anger to feeling sorry for myself, although I can understand why people would.

When we take on the ‘poor me syndrome’ we’ve already subconsciously relinquished the role of taking responsibility for ourselves, moving beyond a certain point, whilst we fail to meet our daily challenges. Perhaps somewhere in my psyche I was already aware of that.

Although it seems the easy way out not to have to take responsibility for ourselves, in effect we’re subconsciously allowing those who have made us feel like this, to continue to justify themselves and their actions. At the outset, we’re telling the world that we’re okay, but the truth is we’re really not okay. As we continue to feel sorry for ourselves, we never will be.

It took me some time to push myself through my own boundaries, change my thoughts and change myself. I was realistic enough to know that I couldn’t change anything as a child, but continued to used opportunities open to me to change the way I perceived my world as I grew up, as far as my own problems were concerned.

Breaking the cycle

We need to break the cycle, that is so important. As adults we have choices but by the time we become adults, the bad habits have already set in. We then continue to apportion blame to those people who we believe put us there in the first place.

We are responsible for our own perceptions of how we see ourselves, as the adult. We can at that point, either choose to continue to feel sorry for ourselves or we can choose to change the way we think.

We need to want to change, to break the cycle, to do something about it.


23 Oct, 2011

8 thoughts on “Poor me syndrome

  1. I never wanted to depend on others for my care, but there were times I had no choice.

    I’d like to think that I haven’t felt sorry for myself, but as a teen I probably did to a certain extent.

    I’ve taught myself to care for “me” and not really depend on others. I care for others as a nurse and don’t care for myself very well.

    I have at times just wanted someone to take care of me for once especially my husband, because with all my problems it does get burdensome, especially when caring for everyone else.

    1. I think it’s very easy for any of us to fall into the ‘poor me syndrome’ when there is so much that we deal with on a daily basis; but some of the time we’re probably oblivious to the fact that is exactly what we do.

      It sounds from your post, that you do absolutely everything for everyone, as well as deal with your own problems. It’s not surprising you’re not looking after yourself well!

      Perhaps it’s time to change some of that. It would be very hard for you not to live permanently in the ‘poor me syndrome.’ You deal with a lot.

  2. Poor me never works.

    It stops us from moving forward. I have been there a few times in my life, so I am speaking from experience.

    If something is not working for you try and see why and figure out how to change it.

    1. I totally agree Randy. Poor me doesn’t work!

      I agree with you that it’s a always a good idea to try and work out why something isn’t work for us. That way, we’ll avoid feeling sorry for ourselves whilst avoiding the poor me syndrome altogether.

      Thank you for posting.

  3. I’ve been stuck in the poor me syndrome for a very long time now and I know it’s something I really need to look at if I want to move on in my life!

    It’s hard for me to imagine anything much different considering the world I grew up in, where that black cloud of depression was always hanging overhead. I’m hoping and praying that the future will be much brighter!

    1. I completely understand Randy. Hope you manage to work things through so that you can move on with your life. I’m here for you.

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