Regardless of my physical and emotional issues, I never allowed myself to be drawn into the poor me syndrome. I’m not sure why, I just never did.
I seemed to withdraw to another place where I was always calm and when I was out of that place I was always angry. I still didn’t equate my anger to feeling sorry for myself, although I can understand why people would.
When we take on the ‘poor me syndrome’ we’ve already subconsciously relinquished the role of taking responsibility for ourselves, moving beyond a certain point, whilst we fail to meet our daily challenges. Perhaps somewhere in my psyche I was already aware of that.
Although it seems the easy way out not to have to take responsibility for ourselves, in effect we’re subconsciously allowing those who have made us feel like this, to continue to justify themselves and their actions. At the outset, we’re telling the world that we’re okay, but the truth is we’re really not okay. As we continue to feel sorry for ourselves, we never will be.
It took me some time to push myself through my own boundaries, change my thoughts and change myself. I was realistic enough to know that I couldn’t change anything as a child, but continued to used opportunities open to me to change the way I perceived my world as I grew up, as far as my own problems were concerned.
Breaking the cycle
We need to break the cycle, that is so important. As adults we have choices but by the time we become adults, the bad habits have already set in. We then continue to apportion blame to those people who we believe put us there in the first place.
We are responsible for our own perceptions of how we see ourselves, as the adult. We can at that point, either choose to continue to feel sorry for ourselves or we can choose to change the way we think.
We need to want to change, to break the cycle, to do something about it.