Growing up there was always a side to me that aimed to please. But there were times when me being kind was an opportunity for others to take advantage and sadly that’s what happened.
It’s easy to become resentful when we’re taken for granted because we’re not in full control, but being assertive helps. Being assertive protects us from being told what to do. It respects the rights and needs of others, because we learn to compromise and be respectful of each other’s opinions.
Being assertive means we can identify the feelings that allow us to say what we want to happen, but it’s wise for us to choose our battles carefully. It’s important only to be assertive when we need to.
By evaluating our feelings, we will know whether we’re being taken advantage of. Speaking from my own experience, those who take advantage will continue, until we say something. It may seem out of character and a challenge for us to say something, but it’s got to be done.
The hard part is choosing our words carefully so that the other person isn’t easily offended but us letting someone down gently is the best way forward. There is always another option open to us. We must learn to say ‘no,’ if we feel we’re being taken advantage of.