Growing up with a disability meant there was always a side to me that aimed to please. But there were times when me being kind was an opportunity for others to take advantage.
It’s easy to become resentful when we’re taken for granted but being assertive helps. Being assertive protects us from the control and being taken advantage of. It respects the rights and needs of others, because we learn to compromise and be respectful of each other and each other’s opinions.
Being assertive means we can identify the feelings that allow us to say what we want to see happen, but we must still be wise so that we choose our battles carefully. By evaluating our feelings, we will know whether we’re being taken advantage of.
From my own experience, those who take advantage will continue, until we say something. It may seem out of character and a challenge for us to say something, but the alternative isn’t an option either.
It’s about choosing our words carefully so that others aren’t easily offended. Letting someone down gently is the best way forward.
Always say ‘no,’ if you feel you’re being taken advantage of. Saying ‘no’ is part of the healing process.