I have heard the saying be yourself; being branded about so many times before. As easy as it to say, in reality it’s not something we know how to do; or what it really means.
To work it out, perhaps we should make a start by looking at our life and our choices. Unfortunately, I had no choices growing up, they were all made for me, but are the choices we make must be our own. I believe we must learn to accept ourselves first, whilst working out what we’d like to do with our life.
Sadly, because I didn’t have any passions I didn’t really know what made me, me. I only started to address my own issues in my 30’s. It’s important for us to try to make our own choices, so that those choices are based on where we are in our life now. It’s very difficult to be yourself, when you’re either looking or living in the past.
Allow yourself to grow, to improve so that you’ll grow emotionally, I believe that’s the first place to start. I also believe that when we allow the past to define us, we can never be ourselves. Other thoughts and feelings from past experiences make that virtually impossible. Work on accepting your mistakes, your choices and move on.
I stopped worrying about how others perceived me a long time ago. We cannot please everyone all the time, so my logic tells me there’s no point in trying. Always having to be on our guard because of something we say, only serves to make us more nervous. To be ourselves, we must let go of our concerns so that we use our own considerations as our filter.
Finally, learn to be open and honest about yourself and try not to beat yourself up about everything. There are of course lots of things we don’t like about ourselves physically, but learn to like those parts of you too. Only then will you be able to unconditionally accept being you.