It’s no secret that as a child my inward thoughts were very negative. My mum used to give me tips that never seemed to work and knowing what I know about my neurological impairments, they never could.
Looking back, I know I didn’t have the tools, but what child does? Moving away from negative thoughts doesn’t happen straight away, it can take weeks, even months to change negative patterns. It’s hard to move away from negativity, particularly when the environment is predominantly negative.
My suggestions for change would be:
- Make a date or work out a cut-off point so that you make a commitment to work on any negative thoughts;
- Try and replace one negative thought you have with a positive one and slowly increase your positive thoughts to two or three, for every negative thought;
- Keep yourself busy and your mind occupied. You’ll be surprised at how much more positive and confident you will become;
- Try to recognise some of your own positive qualities. If that doesn’t come to you straight away, try to look for and see positivity in others;
- Incorporate everything you think will help you recognise the process of thinking positively. Working through your lifestyle usually helps;
- Recite positive affirmations every day and repeat them, so that you begin to believe in what you’re saying;
- Write your thoughts out like you would a Diary. Sometimes the act of writing takes negativity away.
In my own case, I had to keep myself busy. By changing the way we think, we’re paving the way for us to change any negative thoughts into positive ones.