I had finally got dressed this morning and was peering out the window when I saw a neighbour going out with her daughter.
For a split second my thoughts went back to my own childhood with my parents and wondered whether my neighbour would accomplish great things with her child. I understand why my thoughts went back there. We may sometimes stop to question, whether our parents got things right for us and then use comparisons to quantify where we are.
Or maybe it has something to do with my less than perfect childhood. We learn our behaviour from our parents, but it’s only when or if we stop to question what we know that we may change what we didn’t like. How many of us at some point with our children say, my mother said that, or you hear yourself repeating your mother’s words, “I’m turning into my mother.”
Sometimes it’s not always a bad thing, but it’s not a good thing either. It means we must work harder at finding a place with our own children, so that we rewrite history for ourselves with our children; that matters. I think it’s very hard to get everything right and it’s not something we will all achieve, but if our children over the years can see that we have done our best and that our best is good enough then we will have achieved greatly.
I believe it’s very important for us to make a positive mark with our children, because what we leave behind will stay with them for many years, long after we’re gone. It will also give them a positive take on their own lives as they go out into the world.
Every child should take with them fond memories of the times they’ve had with their parents growing up. It’s so important for us to get it right for them and so that their memories of us are left in such a positive light.