As a child always being told what to do, didn’t fill me with confidence or self-esteem, so it’s not surprising that I never really knew whether I was capable of achieving anything or doing anything for myself.
As the adult, I began to see that I didn’t need my parents’ approval and didn’t need to prove either that I was capable of doing things. I believe we spend far too much time trying to show others we’re capable of achieving things. Some children will spend their lives convincing their parents they too are capable.
To be confident in your own abilities, I would suggest:
- Look at your stressors to see what they are, to see if you can make any changes to the way you do things. I believe we can always make light work;
- Adjust your priorities so that you take on as much as you know you can handle and feel free to say no;
- Stop trying to be a perfectionist, that will only add to more of your stress;
- Always plan ahead so that you’re organised; that way you’ll give yourself extra time to do more of what you want;
- Always make time to take up a leisure activity or exercise;
- Take care of your emotional and physical needs;
- Take control so that you say no when you feel it’s appropriate to say no.
When we do things for ourselves, it encourages confidence, promotes self-awareness and self-esteem, all of which we need in our lives. We will also learn all there is to know about us, what we like and what we dislike, how we feel about certain things and how we perceive other people and situations.
Having had experience on both sides of the coin, I know which side I would rather be on… the side that allows me to life my life for me.