Confrontation is probably something we’ve all had to deal with through work, school, family or even friends. If we can’t avoid confrontation, how do we then deal with being confronted?
Disagreements, arguments and confrontations happen when we say something inappropriate or offensive, without realising what we’ve said. On someone else’s part, going in fighting and screaming, wouldn’t be the best way to handle the situation? Standing anyone’s ground only serves to fuel anger further.
Some people tend to avoid confrontation, but the problem with avoiding confrontation is that if we do have to confront someone, the issue doesn’t go away. It may also drain our confidence; as we will begin to worry more. There could be many reasons why we choose not to confront; but I a pacifist will sit on the fence instead. The only problem with that is that we will begin to avoid situations where we may have to see, or be in contact with the person we need to confront and that never sits comfortably.
That may work for a finite time, but avoiding situations isn’t dealing with the issue. Not dealing with the issue means we’re not learning either, or setting us up for the right of passage to a more peaceful footing. We can never be at peace when we spend our lives avoiding people. In my experience, it’s easier to talk. That way the problem doesn’t magnify itself and it gets resolved.
I believe we don’t have to be self-righteous to prove that we’re right. We also don’t have to prove that we’re right, to believe what we know. Just because we confront someone about an issue, doesn’t mean that issue will turn into a power struggle.
I personally believe that no one needs to lose. It depends on both party’s approach. Behaving in a tactful but appropriate way can bring about a win, win situation for everyone.