Confrontation is probably something we’ve all had to deal with, but if we can’t avoid confrontation and find that difficult, how then are we supposed to deal with being confronted?
Disagreements, arguments and confrontations may often happen when we say something that others think inappropriate or offensive, without realising what we’ve said. Going in fighting and screaming wouldn’t be the best way to handle the situation. Standing anyone’s ground also only serves to fuel anger further.
Some people may try to avoid confrontation, but the problem with that is that issues don’t go away just because we choose to ignore it. We may also worry more. There could be many reasons why we choose not to confront, but that may work for a finite time, but avoiding situations isn’t dealing with the issue.
Not dealing with the issue means we’re not learning, it also won’t set us up for a rightful passage to peace. We can never be at peace when we spend our lives avoiding issues or people. In the longer term it’s easier to talk. That way the issue doesn’t magnify and it gets resolved.
We don’t have to be self-righteous to prove that we’re right. We also don’t have to prove that we’re right to believe what we know. And just because we confront someone about an issue, it doesn’t mean the issue will turn into a power struggle.
No one needs to lose, it depends on both party’s approach and how they choose to deal with the issue. Behaving in a tactful and appropriate way can bring about a compromise on both sides.