I am sure we’ve all come across negative people in our lives who we would rather not have to deal with, but walking away and starting a new life isn’t always an option. We need to be clever.
For others, it’s a means of controlling other people, it’s a means of gaining attention, albeit in a negative way. Others may subconsciously not even be aware they are being negative. Negative people often see other people as being negative, never themselves.
But I’m of the opinion that we don’t have to convince other people to know we’re right. From my own experience, whatever views we bring to the table, is always met with more opposition. Whatever we say they will find ten different reasons to back their argument up. Avoiding arguments at all costs is the way to go.
Have you also noticed how negative people tend to stick to the same topic of conversation? It doesn’t matter how long ago you saw them; it’s a new visit with what could be new and interesting conversation, but the topic of conversation always seems to turn to something they’re dealing with, no matter what it is.
Keep the conversation simple. Don’t talk about the things you know others will struggle with. If you know the person well enough, you’ll know already which conversations to avoid. From my own experience, it’s the same conversations that get us into trouble in the first place.
In short, it’s very easy for a conversation to strike up resentment, so stick to lighter topics that are less controversial, less important. Know your audience too. Always try and perceive a negative person in a positive way, so that what they say becomes positive for you.
Take responsibility for your own perceptions so that you remain positive, even if the other person isn’t. It’s a skill that needs honing. It’s not easy to do, but with practice it’s achievable.
Failing that you’ll have no choice but to limit your time with them.