Dealing with setbacks

Setbacks are inevitable. I find the bigger the problem, the more likely I am to have them.

I tend to handle my emotions for a considerable amount of time, then usually with a lack of a resolve on a way forward I end up with a setback in one form or another. I suppose that’s inevitable. Once I get beyond the setback, I spend less time being concerned about it.

It’s important in that time to have composure of course, because without composure it’s easy for panic to set in. Once we have composure, dealing with setbacks will always seem easier. I think there are no right or wrong ways to deal with them; it’s what works for us, but we must try not to be critical of ourselves.

It’s always easy to look back and question ourselves on what we could or should have done differently, but we must just be okay with what we go on to achieve. The irony is that time is what we need. Any setback takes time to turn itself around. Nothing ever stays the same; problems will always reach a conclusion.

Looking back on my own scenario with the assault, talking about my setbacks helped. I tend to feel worse when I don’t say anything, but appreciate others will cope differently. I have seen how rifts come between people, as they become less united in their quest to cope.

Perhaps we must try to recognise our progress. However, little progress we think we’ve made, we must always see our progress as a contributing factor for a more positive outcome and the start of a new beginning from someone who has now become more determined and confident about themselves.


25 Jun, 2012

4 thoughts on “Dealing with setbacks

  1. I’ve dealt with my setbacks in my life very negatively, to the point of allowing them to totally stop me from living. I’m definitely in this position right now, since I feel like I’m just existing right now.

    I know it’s going to take a lot of hard work to move beyond being so stagnant in my life. I’m hoping and praying that I will actually be able to live for a change in the future.

    I know there are a lot of things to live for even though I can’t always see them!

    1. I hope you get to that stage too Randy.

      I agree that when we deal with so much it’s not always easy to see what we have in our lives.

  2. I handle set backs fairly well and I’ve seen a lot here lately with the adoption.

    I’ve learned not to set my expectations high and take some things with a grain of salt, so I don’t get so disappointed.

    1. Lowering our expectations to avoid disappointment can be a useful tool and works for many people, I’m sure.

      I’m pleased it works for you Lisa.

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