14 Mar 2014
I wasn’t taught anything about loyalties or divided loyalties when I was a child, but they’re both something I was aware of from a very early age. Being a sensitive child I was aware of most things.
By nature, a child’s response will always be influenced by their parents’ relationship with each other. When parents’ work together as a team, children will have little cause to come between their parents. It’s often the different parenting styles that cause divided loyalties in the first place, when children get to choose the parent they want the closer relationship with.
For some of us friendships may also create divided loyalties, where two friends agree on something and the third doesn’t and sides are taken. The same thing may also happen in families, where being close to one parent means being disloyal to the other, although it’s not always done on a conscious level.
As a child I was constantly weighing everything up. It’s not always enough to take someone’s word or side without understanding the sentiments behind their words. All too often we take sides without understanding everything there is to know and why that person would go on to say what they say.
All sentiments must be loyal or there’s no point in having them. One thing I do know is that if our sentiments were loyal we’d have less cause to have to deal with divided loyalties.