When I was little thinking before I spoke wasn’t something I regularly did. It wasn’t because I was wilful, or because I had an opinion, but because I was struggling with my disability. Through frustration and anger I lashed out, but it wasn’t something I was consciously aware of.
Perhaps others can relate, but how many of us know we’re doing it? Do we make the conscious connection? We don’t choose to be like that. It’s usually our circumstances or our upbringing that make us like that. If we’ve had a too many bad experiences or we’re emotionally struggling, we may lash out.
No one is born angry. But perhaps we must take a moment to step back and work through why we may be angry and think about what we say and how what we say will affect others. Now I know that when I help or talk to someone in a kind way, it sets me up for the day.
Sadly, and is often the case, when we do change, those around us choose to ignore the fact that we’ve changed. People tend to see what they want to see or have known. It’s easier that way. It’s also easier for others to continue to get us into trouble, rather than them recognise their own flaws.
I changed but others didn’t. But perhaps it’s time for us to start making a difference for ourselves and for each other. A kind word can change our day and make us feel good that we’ve done something good. Kind words go such a long way.