Don’t be a scapegoat or carry the responsibility for something you didn’t do, but if you have done something, then it’s up to you to be responsible and accept that you have. Never accept blame for something you didn’t do. Accusations are unjust.
Other things to think about
If more than one person is responsible for something that has happened and we’re the only one being made the scapegoat, then we must say. We must use what we know to let others know we’re not the only one at fault. Always outline your part in the problem. It’s up to others to come forward for themselves.
We need to build up our self-confidence, so that we stand up for ourselves. If we’re more assertive, we’re more likely to say something when the finger is pointed at us. When we lack the self-confidence, we tend to run with what someone else is telling us, then feel bad when we can’t go back in and correct things.
Unfortunately, when we use a scapegoat as a means of communication we may already have distorted views on our reality. No one without a distorted view will seek to use someone else, in order to justify themselves and their behaviour. That person may also continue to direct the problem and will feel justified in the process.
From what I know, dysfunctional families may use this behaviour as a form of communication. In the long term, all it does is create more unease in our lives.