Being told that you’re loved as a child isn’t the same as feeling that you are loved. I believe there needs to be a spiritual connectedness between what we’re told by someone and what we feel. When we’re constantly being told we’re pretty, beautiful, or special, we must feel those things too.
Being born with Cerebral Palsy meant that people would behave differently towards me. That of course had an effect on what I outwardly thought about myself and inwardly how I perceived myself.
It took me many years to make my own connections between being loved and feeling loved, how I felt about myself. The problem is that the more negative elements we encounter in our lives, the more we distance ourselves between what’s said and what we feel, so the gap becomes bigger.
That’s not fine, but it seems fine whilst we’re coping, but it’s not fine when something happens to change all of that. It may be that we will begin to struggle with acceptance because of how we feel about ourselves.
It doesn’t matter how many times someone tells us they love us, there needs to be a spiritual and emotional connection so that we feel we’re loved, or that we feel special. That will allow us to make better connections with ourselves as well as with others.