I have always had people in my life who have used emotional manipulation. It’s all about control. We can free ourselves from its grasp as long as we understand its concept and stop it early enough.
As we continue to live with emotional manipulation, we will continue to live with fear as the manipulation continues. A manipulator will always turn what we say around in such negative ways. It doesn’t matter what we say, something will find its way back to us that is negative.
Emotional manipulators will say something and if confronted, will deny what they say, by saying they didn’t say it at all. That’s when we will begin to test our own memories of past conversations, to verify that what they said is what we heard. Ten times out of ten what we’ve heard is exactly what we’ve heard, but the emotional manipulator will always deny it.
What about responsibility?
They will never take responsibility for what they do. They will consciously identify situations where they will continue to observe what others have done to them and will share their own experiences that seems completely reasonable, so that we begin to feel sorry for them.
To us, they may seem vulnerable, open even sensitive, but it’s usually a ploy for their own personal gain and the manipulators recollection is often not a true reflection of events and how they happened.
What about making us feel guilty?
Manipulators are masters in the art of making us feel guilty for just about everything. They’ll make us feel guilty for showing we care; for not caring enough; or they’ll make us feel guilty for showing too much emotion.
Unfortunately, as they constantly play the victim card, alongside their guilt-trip and sympathy tactics, they’ll continue to play with our emotions, but we have to be completely educated in recognising the signs.