When we can understand someone’s feelings from their perspective and don’t stand in judgment, we have the ability to empathise.
Empathy isn’t something we’re born with, but it’s something we can learn and comes with experience. It’s not something we will all have in our lifetime either. To have empathy with someone, we must put ourselves in that person’s shoes and feel what that person feels.
Some of us will have natural empathetic tendencies, whilst others won’t. Some of us won’t notice, while others simply won’t be bothered to notice; but most of us will be somewhere in the middle and will understand in part how someone feels. We tend to ignore how other people feel when we’re not coping.
Empathy is self-taught. If our parents have empathy, we will learn from them how the empathy thing works. Even if our parents don’t have empathy there is no reason why we can’t. Empathy comes from within, from what we see around us.
As a child growing up with physical and emotional problems, I automatically understood what empathy was. I could see someone else’s suffering through my own and that enabled me to relate to others easily.
I believe that if we want to have empathy in our lives we will work on having it. That part will always be up to us.