Some families have a lot to answer for. Too often issues are brought into the equation by other family members that don’t belong to us and will interfere in our daily lives.
As long as we’re not responsible for those issues, there is no need for us to carry them, as if they were our own. It’s easy to unconsciously apportion blame to those of us who are connected by association, for us getting caught up in the crossfire on issues we’re then expected to deal with.
Whatever family issues we’re expected to deal with that aren’t ours, start by taking blame out of the equation. Nothing ever gets solved when we start off with blame. Unfortunately, blame becomes the bigger issue, than the issue itself.