I believe it doesn’t matter who we are, or who we go on to meet, everyone has something special to give. On our parts, we must be open enough to receive it.
Every encounter we experience, gives us the opportunity to look at our greater self-awareness, by showing us what we can accept about ourselves. Our behaviour will always highlight information to the other person, which is why first impressions count.
The key to greater self-awareness lies in what we can learn or know about ourselves and how we usually judge or accept ourselves. For example, if someone says something about you and you know they’re speaking the truth, but it’s hit a nerve, the truth can sometimes hurt. It’s always hard for us to acknowledge our own faults, let alone hear others tell us what they think our faults are.
‘The same point can be applied to almost any situation. Our reactions are often a reflection on how we judge ourselves and how we feel about ourselves and not the other person.’
It may also depend on who we’re talking to. We tend to judge others when we feel emotionally threatened in some way. If we are in the company of someone who is more outgoing than we are, we may resent them being that way. How many times have you perhaps made a comment by saying how loud or what a show-off they are?
Of course, when we become more of accepting of others and what they say, we’re more likely to express what’s being presented in a more appropriate and mature way. I believe our judgments of others are based on our own emotional reactions and when applied appropriately, are more likely to help us gain insight into how we think and behave.
We must explore all assumptions and beliefs. Our judgment of others, acts as a mirror so that we get to see how we present ourselves.