The things I didn’t like growing up, were the fact that I had one leg shorter than the other, a club foot and very little muscle tone on my left side, which left my left side very weak, part of the Cerebral Palsy scenario that I didn’t know I had. I also didn’t like the fact that I was lopsided when I was standing straight.
Going through adolescence was no different. Because I didn’t recognise any of my milestones I missed out on noticing the changes we all go through when we reach that stage. Although that part wasn’t great, it did stop me from criticising the parts of me I didn’t like, which usually happens through adolescence, until we learn to accept who we are.
When we go through adolescence, we may sometimes struggle to come to terms with the changes we have to go through. In a way I was lucky to have missed out on the feelings associated with those changes, but in other respects I missed out on the whole experience of adolescence, connecting me to the adult world.
We either come through adolescence liking who we are, or we become picky, picking out all our flaws wishing we were different, wishing we were taller when we’re small, slim when we’re curvy, spots where others have clear skin, as we continue to hone in on all the things we hate about ourselves.
Wanting what others have and wishing things were different, instead of embracing what we have and learning to live with what we’ve been given. I think that’s part of the problem. We want what we don’t have and then set to change ourselves so that we have what other people have.
As we begin to hone in on all the negative stuff about ourselves, we believe that no one else can possibly understand our experiences and feelings, because the feelings are unique to us. We allow ourselves to be swayed by what other people feel and forget to appreciate our own importance.
We tend to disconnect, instead of dealing with how we feel. We must connect with our emotions and learn to like our physical side too. Learn to like who we have the potential to become through the other end of adolescence.
Personally, I feel we are lucky to reach our milestones, to have them and to have the opportunities that go with them.