Guilt is a burden many of us carry like a trunk load, either because of something we’ve done or something someone else has done to us. It’s in our subconscious, it’s something we’re drawn back to, which is often why it’s difficult to let go.
When we carry guilt, the message we must give ourselves is that we should redress the balance, but guilt never goes until we deal with it. There must be a link between guilt and apology and both are important to our spiritual and emotional growth. As children, our parents teach us to say sorry when we’re wrong, but even though children find it hard to admit to saying sorry, adults find it even harder.
It’s the same with guilt. When a person judges us as being wrong that person is defending his or her own emotions the same way we defend ourselves by not saying sorry. That person chooses to judge, so that they don’t have to think or understanding their real emotions. They’re choosing not to make a conscious connection.
As our behaviour puts others in touch with their own feelings, other people’s behaviour will put us in touch with our own feelings. Guilt is linked to ego; our ego takes a knock and we fail to admit to guilt because of a bruised ego. I believe that is what it is?
Guilt is used as a tool to control children into believing or thinking they have to conform. Cultures; people and societies all use guilt to brain wash us into believing their path is the right path, whereas in effect the path they want us to take is their own path, which is right for them, but not necessarily the right path for us.
When others impart their guilt on us, we begin to believe we’re wrong so we judge ourselves. Maybe that’s what we need to change.