It is what we do that makes us who we are. They are characteristics of how we see ourselves and how others see us.
I could define myself by the fact I have Cerebral Palsy, but I choose not to. As a child because I would start something and not finish, certain family members would define me as being lazy, but the truth is I struggled with neurological issues and perhaps that’s the point.
Although we may not always define ourselves, we will spend our lives being defined by other people. If we’re clever we’re defined by our intelligence, in the same way we’re defined by our lack of intelligence. Our actions, our thoughts, our intentions and our outlook all define us. I believe others play their part.
We are defined by our existence and how we live our lives. If we’re caring, kind and compassionate, we are defined by those attributes too, but if we were to put out unkind thoughts, or say unkind things to others, we are defined by those too.
Unfortunately, and it has been my experience that once we are defined, always defined until others choose to see and perceive us differently. How people define us sticks, no matter how much we change over the years.
That for me has been a big problem, because it’s further from the truth of how I am. You only have to look at The CP Diary, to read my blogs, to see what defines me and why it was wrong for me to be defined.