Never having made any decisions as a child, I was never really sure how easy it would be when it came to me making decisions as an adult.
It is possible that if we struggle with confidence issues or have something else that we deal with, those issues will stop us from making a decision. Deciding and making decisions is never an easy task in itself. We’re not always sure if the decision we go on to make will be the right one.
Struggling to make a decision may also bring about impulsive tendencies. I say that, not necessarily because we’re always impulsive by nature, but through the sheer frustration of needing to make a decision.
Living with uncertainty and knowing we have to make a decision may cause us to become impulsive, possibly because we’re already under pressure; we’re stressed; not up to the task; but the pressure’s still on.
Some of the pointers below have helped me:
- Firstly identify the problem so you know what you have to deal with;
- Think about the options and possible solutions;
- Discuss your approaches with the people who you feel can help you;
- Go back and list the options in order of your own preference;
- List the pros and cons of the top two or three;
- Then choose the option you feel you will be the most comfortable with;
- Once you’ve done that think about the action/s that need to be taken to bring about your solution;
- Finally, take a step back and think about your decision before you go ahead with it, just to be sure you haven’t made the wrong decision.
Finally, any decision we make will always become the right one for us, even if the decision we make wasn’t our first choice. That should help with any impulsive tendencies.
I believe going with that thought, means we will never make another bad choice or decision.