Humility & inclusion

“I think we can’t go around measuring our goodness by what we don’t do… by what we deny ourselves … what we resist and who we exclude.

I think we have to measure goodness by what we embrace … what we create and who we include.” – Chocolat

I absolutely love this quote from the film ‘Chocolat.’ It resonates completely with how I have lived and continue to live my life. Humility is something we can all have, but not all of us will. Humility isn’t something we just know how to do, we must work at it. I believe life is measured by it, how we behave, whom we include and how we choose to relate to other people.

Ever since I was a small child, I never felt the need to prove myself to anyone. I was never full of my own self-importance. I was respectful and grateful, it didn’t matter the circumstances. I was an unassuming child, who didn’t take anything or anyone for granted. Looking back, I wouldn’t change how I was, because I know those attributes have made me who I am today.

A person with humility, instead of being self-opinionated and pompous, will go about their life in an understated fashion. Although experiences help us mature and come to terms with many aspects of our lives, being humble allows us to deal with our issues, without a fuss and without other people knowing our business. We come to accept praise we’re given gracefully without others needing to know we have been praised.

Humility makes us more courteous, as we look to learn, listening to others and in doing so, perhaps placing those others before ourselves. We would never neglect ourselves, but we’re also happy to think about other people who may need our help. Humility means that everything we do comes from a gentle, more considerate and conciliatory place.

We live life at a much slower pace and choose a life that’s more purposeful. Even with differences in the world, a person with humility will unconsciously choose not to see any differences, or will embrace those differences instead of making a difference, or walking away.

Unfortunately, even if we start off being humble, in a society that encourages us to be less individual and more inclusive it can be hard to stay humble, but we must. Humility will always concur with the universe and is a good way to live.


28 Feb, 2016

8 thoughts on “Humility & inclusion

  1. I have always thought humility to be an essential quality to possess. It allows us to be in touch with other people, regardless of what race or background they come from.

    As a person with a disability, I truly appreciate when people are humble enough to overlook my disability and make me feel included.

    1. Thanks Maria. I love the sentiments included in your response. We need more of those people in the world and couldn’t agree more.

  2. Amen to that Maria! I feel the same way. Being included instead of excluded is very rare in today’s world. And I cherish it as do most with disabilities of course.

    We do need more people like that in today’s world!!

  3. These two essential human qualities are what make us human and yet are the very things that so many of us lack.

    Sadly that says a lot about the human condition.

    1. Thanks, yes I couldn’t agree more. Not having humanity says a lot about the human condition.

      With humanity we hold compassion and empathy close to our hearts and both of those things lead to inclusion. Without humanity I think we live very shallow lives.

  4. It took me a long time to figure out the difference between humility and humiliation! The balance between the two can be a very fine line.

    I spent a lot of time humiliating myself to keep everyone else happy, rather than helping myself first so I could actually be useful to other people. Most often they will take and take, until you have nothing left to give and still continue to expect more!

    I put others first to the point of excluding my ex-girlfriend’s daughter to try protecting her child, which proved to be futile in the end!

    I still don’t have it completely down but I’m trying to be more aware of what I’m doing so I don’t keep doing the same thing and expecting different results.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, humility is a hard one. It’s not always easy to figure out. You’re a good guy Randy. We do what we think is right, until we realise those things aren’t right and we need to change them.

      It’s unfortunate not everyone behaves in the same way. Sometimes we’re left with no choice, but to put ourselves first and that’s right.

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