We have a bad day, not because someone is irritating us, but because we feel bad. That’s because the feelings we have that arise out of conflict are often tied to unconscious thoughts, not yet realised that continue to block our awareness of the bigger picture.
If we were to unravel what goes on behind our unconscious thoughts, we would understand why we’re in conflict with ourselves and why what we feel generally has nothing to do with anyone else.
It’s not to say others won’t trigger the feelings we have, but unless we learn to deal with any outstanding issues, those issues will always lie in our unconscious, until we deal with them.
From my own experience, once we deal with our unconscious, we will stop being in conflict with ourselves. We are in conflict with ourselves, because we fail to deal with unresolved issues that lurk beneath the surface, often stemming from childhood.
So next time you lash out at someone because of something they say, stop and think about why. Is it coming from them, or is it really coming from you?