We may permanently be in a state of stress, when we fail to search within ourselves for the answers to some of the issues we have.
Searching within ourselves can make a difference between a life that just moves us along without us really being in control, or a life that leaves us happier with full control. Many of us will use our routine as an excuse to avoid thinking about the issues we have that seem too difficult or painful to confront.
- Our issues will be there no matter how busy we make ourselves;
- At an unconscious level our issues will serve as a gentle reminder we still have them no matter what;
- Our issues will always continue to interfere with our normal level of functioning, until we begin to deal with them.
It has been a constant battle for me trying to maintaining full control. Where I thought I had control I clearly didn’t, because there was always someone who had other ideas. Whether it’s us who has problems maintaining control, or it’s someone else who insists on having control, it’s important we try to maintain control.
In my formative years I was always trying to stay in control and never gave up on the concept that one day I would. In some respects I believe it becomes the norm on what we have to deal with and with whom. Our lives are ours; we must be in the driving seat and have full control. If we’re not in control, someone else is.