Living with no regrets

For many years, I lived with guilty feelings from lifelong regrets that left me in a less than happy place. Each day felt like a new battle.

Every way I turned my disappointments continued to stare back at me. I couldn’t rid myself of the guilt that was constantly clouding my judgment, but as I slowly embarked on my spiritual journey, things began to change. My inner beliefs helped me see that my guilt had nothing to do with me.

I began understand that a lifetime of my regrets had everything to do with the control and the decisions that were made for me. I had never made a decision for myself or been given a choice to go down road A or road B. Unfortunately, any guilt or regrets we carry regardless of who’s guilt, will keep us stuck in the past; written into our own history books, the books we cannot change.

Although it took many years to get to that stage, it eventually felt like a release. I had done a lot of soul searching up to that point. It was time to change. As my outlook began to change so did my life. I slowly started to change some of the things that we’re keeping me emotionally stuck.

It was made easier because I knew my regrets never belonged to me in the first place; but I still had to let them go. When I started to make my own choices, those choices were right. It’s easy for us to look back and see a life of regrets. That’s the hard part of living, the mind plays tricks on us. Where we think we’re okay, we’re not when we play back the tapes.

I see my decisions as a stepping-stone to yet more change and yet more lessons for me to learn. As I evolve and grow spiritually, I rely on my intuition (my own guiding light) to help me pave the way on my decisions so that I have no more regrets.


4 Jul, 2012

4 thoughts on “Living with no regrets

  1. I have a few regrets that I can’t change, but I can do better now to improve my life.

    I think as we see our downfalls we should leave them in the past and move on in a better direction and change now. Don’t keep having those regrets or your life will be full of “I wish I had’s…” Now I say I’m glad I did.

    Growing up, my parents did make a lot of decisions for me, but that is what parents do and mine made those decisions even when I was a teenager in 12th grade. I didn’t get to go on trips with my classmates because my parents didn’t think I would be safe enough, but I’m over it.

    I’ve forgiven them for holding me back from a few things. I’m probably better off now anyway.

    1. I think we all probably do Lisa. Regrets tend to get a grip until we deal with them and let them go.

      I think you’re right. Parents particularly when you and I were growing up did tend to make decisions for us, based on what they wanted for us, but not necessarily what we would have wanted for ourselves.

      I like you have turned my back on my regrets and in some ways I have now made up for them and I’m in a better place for it. I believe regrets can make us stronger and more determined as we work to change what’s been, so it’s not all bad.

      I am pleased you feel better about your regrets and have chosen to forgive your parents. I still believe parents parent with their own set of tools given how they’ve been parented by their parents. But as generations move on, some of us will do better.

  2. It’s important not to live with regrets as it’s a very negative state. It’s better to do something about them, no matter how small.

    We can’t change the past so we must work as much as possible to ensure it’s influences don’t hurt us.

    1. I agree with you.

      We cannot always do something about the past, but believe we can change the way we perceive the past so that we live our lives without feeling bad about any regrets we’ve left behind.

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