Look at the past

I often take time to reflect on my past. I believe it’s there to help me learn, so that I can go on to make new life choices. There will always be times where it’s hard but necessary.

Reflection is a good tool to use. Nothing to be anxious about. Reflection allows us to grow spiritually, whilst we learn how to begin to perceive new thoughts in more positive ways, particularly if some of our choices have turned out to be less than positive or successful.

I believe when we can use our past as a tool without making the same mistakes twice, we will have learned our lessons and learned them well. It’s easy to feel guilty about what we didn’t do or failed at, but what purpose will it serve? Any decision we make is usually the right decision at that time, otherwise we wouldn’t have made the decision in the first place.

It’s easy to look back and wish we hadn’t. Forced decisions never reflect our own thoughts or sentiments and yet it’s easy to feel guilty about them. If our lessons become a learned experience and we can go on to change our future, then those decisions are never wasted. They become our lessons.

We cannot change the past or the people who make our decisions for us, but we can change the way we perceive those decisions so that we lose the guilt and bitterness tag attached to them.

Change is always necessary. The past is also necessary so that we can learn new outcomes. Without the past we have no lessons. Changes can sometimes be complicated, but can result in new experiences and positive outcomes.

Be aware of your feelings and never lose sight of what you feel you have achieved. I went through a phase of feeling guilty for everything. All my decisions were forced decisions. It’s never easy living with other people’s decisions, whether those decisions turn out to be successful for us or not. They’re not our decisions that will always be the problem.

We’re all keen to achieve, when that doesn’t happen we still carry the guilt, regardless of who made the final decision.


27 Nov, 2011

6 thoughts on “Look at the past

  1. I look back on the past and regret some of the decisions that I made; like not going off to college because of my boyfriend at the time, which was a huge mistake. I’ll always regret the decisions I made about my education, but I’m hopefully going to make up for that one soon.

    The other decisions I made when I was a teenager were bad and that’s because I was a rebellious teen.

    I rebelled against my parents because they never let me do anything. I realize now they were just protecting me because I have diabetes, but I’m pretty satisfied with my life otherwise.

    1. Most of us will have made decisions in our past we’re not altogether happy with, but drawing on those experiences and using our strengths so that we can change our future, I believe is the way forward.

      I also believe dwelling on the past will always hurt us. If we can reflect and change what happens in our past that will help.

  2. A wise friend once told me feelings are there for a reason.

    I do believe looking to the past is helpful in order not to repeat the same mistake twice. Yes we hopefully learn from our mistakes. But try not to dwell on the past too much.

    Look to the future and all the possibilities it holds.

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