As a child we expect our parents to put us first, to make decisions for us that will be for our benefit, above what they want for themselves. It’s what a parent does, right?
Hoping that will happen can be our biggest disappointment that may result in misplaced expectations if we don’t learn to let go. It’s not something a child should have to deal with. Being a parent I know how important it is for me to make decisions that benefit my children.
Wishing for things that we want to happen, which we know deep down will never happen with a parent, will only serve to make us more stressed, not to mention frustrated. If these issues are yours, then perhaps it’s time to focus on the people who matter and who will make a difference in your life.
It’s easy to live in the hope that one-day our parents will change and do what’s right for us so that we get to live the life we want to live. Unfortunately, that may not happen and we cannot expect anyone, even our parents to change, if they don’t want to change.
It’s important to be honest with them so that we tell them how we feel and what we need them to do for us, or if that’s not forthcoming then think about the possibility of emotionally supporting ourselves. In these circumstances, it’s often us who has to do the changing.
From my own experiences, we either learn to accept our circumstances; concentrate on the people we can rely on; or choose to emotionally change the way we perceive our circumstances.