Never having had any concrete support, I wasn’t sure how I would feel when it came to losing both parents.
As the weeks passed, I began to ask myself whether it was easier letting go of losing both parents, because there had never been any emotional support in place. I believe it is. That when we have no support it’s always easier to let go of loss. When we tie ourselves emotionally into any relationship, we will always have those ties to break.
It’s the nature of relationships and why we have difficulty letting go. With no support, the opposite is usually true, we don’t have to go through the process of letting go because there’s nothing to let go of.
As for the grieving process, it’s easy to grieve for something we didn’t have. If we were to think about the loss in these circumstances, then perhaps that is the loss we feel.