I want a life that’s quiet, one that doesn’t involve having to compromise my thoughts, feelings and beliefs and where I don’t have to avoid stress for fear of becoming unwell. I am sure that’s what we all want.
The problem is that if we have years of negative history with a particular person; we’re likely to get stressed and unwell. Those are my experiences. Of course communication is the key, but that doesn’t always help because it’s how we communicate that matters and not all of us will get that right. Stress isn’t something that’s created by itself, we don’t consciously look for it; but we do create it.
However, generally speaking if we learned to communicate in more diplomatic ways, people would be more inclined to work with each other. For others though, it may simply not work… not because they set out to cause an argument, but because they’re left with no choice. There are some people who are just incapable of being reasoned with, however hard we try to reason with them.
In any event if we remember to use tact and diplomacy when we communicate, I’m not sure why any of us would be stressed. I was always taught never to overstep my boundaries. I always think about what I want to say and whether what I want to say will have a negative impact on the other person.
I tend to apply that principle to all areas of my life… and I believe it works.