One size fits all parenting. What if through one size fits all parenting, all siblings are sidled together and as a consequence miss out on their own opportunities?
If that were the case, how easy would it be for a sibling to apportion blame on their parents and their other siblings for how their life has turned out? When parents don’t accept their mistakes and take responsibility, it makes it easy for siblings to carry their guilt, as they begin to look for fault elsewhere and instead blame one another.
Regardless of whether children are prevented from doing what they want to do, decisions in their early years lie with their parents and that’s a fact. Perhaps it’s more important children find a level of acceptance on their parents’ decisions, even if their decisions are far from acceptable and they’re not the decisions we wanted our parents to make. If that is the case, there seems to be very little point apportioning blame.
On the part of the parents, perhaps they should begin to base their decisions on what’s right for their individual children and not what’s right for them or their children combined. Of course once we become parents ourselves, we will have the options and opportunity to make any changes we didn’t agree with for our own children.
We often learn from our parents’ mistakes and although it doesn’t always help us, looking to apportion blame on our siblings’ because of the things we couldn’t change as a child, isn’t the right way to go. Siblings need to be able to get on.