Other people’s emotions
24 Feb
Every negative emotion we carry from other people, are energies that if left can potentially be our emotions.
Our brains become emotional sponges without us realising. That’s why it’s so important for us to challenge our emotions, so that we’re not drawn in by other people’s negative emotions.
These suggestions are worth considering:
- Sometimes we are the source of our own negativity. If you are your own source, try to work out why you’re feeling so negative. Dig deep, the answer is always there, you just have to find it;
- Certain situations can be difficult, particularly if like me you’re dealing with a family terminal illness. Even if you’re in company you can still take a mental break for 10 to 15 minutes whilst you focus on yourself and your breathing. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel when you’re not constantly listening to negative talk;
- We should change the way we respond to what others say. We’re not responsible for others, but we are responsible for the way we react to others. We are responsible for our own perceptions and our own attitude. We can choose to see those perceptions negatively or we can choose to see them positively. We can choose a positive attitude.
Unfortunately some of us will be more susceptible to other people’s negative emotions than others, particularly those who already struggle with negative thoughts brought about by depression.
Of course it’s never easy to change these things, but it’s still very much up to us whether we choose to absorb other people’s negative emotions. Consciously I choose not to.
I try not to let others emotions affect me. I’m mostly a positive person and when someone is being negative I try to turn it around for them.
Encourage the positive. My daughter is bad about being negative. Everything ends badly to her. She is a tough one to crack, but I have managed to turn her thinking around sometimes.
I also am trying to not let other things bad affect me. People are going to do what they want to do most of the time. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to turn it around for them they have to make their own decisions for their life and live with that decision.
For my life I choose to be positive and encouraged. Being negative gets you no where except down.
I agree with your sentiments Lisa, but unfortunately we cannot turn things around for other people unless they’re happy to listen and turn things around for themselves. You’re absolutely right, people are always going to do what they want to do regardless of what we think or want for them.
I love the fact that you choose to be positive in your life. That is definitely something to be encouraged!
I deal with negative emotions every day. Depending on who I see that day they can turn into positive ones rather quickly.
I try not to dwell on negativity because it just pulls me down further. Being around people who are happy and positive helps a lot.
It makes you forget the negative thoughts and turns them around.
Ditto. I agree with you. I hope you manage to turn your negative emotions into positive ones and that they stay positive.
I know that will help.
I seem to listen to people and try to interpret what they are saying, so if they are being negative I try to show them that there may be a positive outlook on it as well.
Since the negative for some people might be the first thing they look at, I try to take a spin off from what they say and show them what they thought might be too negative.
They can take it or leave it. It’s their choice to be negative or not. I just try to steer them in the right direction, or try to let them see that it’s not all that bad.
So if I could only take my own medicine!!
I completely agree with you.
All you can do is help by giving your own take on what you see that is positive, in the hope that what you say will influence the person you’re talking to in a positive way, if they’re not seeing things positively.
Negativity is learned behaviour either inherited from family (from what we see) or from our inability to be able to deal with our own issues positively.
Once we see it for ourselves it’s much easier for us to change, but we have to want to. It’s also far easier to point out to others that they must be positive and not do it ourselves. It takes more effort to implement being positive than it does being negative.