Our cruel world

In the last two years working through my son’s assault there were times where I literally felt like giving up. Things just seemed too hard. My life has taken a different turn and things for me don’t feel the same. I feel indifferent today, neither good nor bad.

Part of me is relieved that we’re finally able to move forward, but I’ve struggled to get to this place, so it’s not making me feel very good. It’s always emotionally draining when we have to work hard to get to a better place.

Although I have always been aware of what’s out there in the world, the assault has made me more aware now. I am more on my guard and have to be. I never thought for one moment this is what we would have had to deal with.

When I was a child I wasn’t aware of what went on outside of my own four walls. I was completely protected from it. Looking back now at that time, I don’t believe the world was any less scary then. Things still happened but I didn’t get to hear about those things.

As a family we have tried so hard not to dwell on the assault, but that’s not been easy either. I have worked so hard to try to keep normality in our lives, we all have, but must admit we didn’t always succeed. Stress always find its way in.

I find it very sad that children of today, need to be more vigilant once they leave home so that they’re safe at all times. No one has that guarantee, even your child.


3 Jun, 2012

8 thoughts on “Our cruel world

  1. I remember growing up and no one would lock their doors and you could take your kids anywhere without worry. When I went off to school I didn’t have to worry like our kids do today.

    I think it’s a shame how society has gotten. People you think wouldn’t do stuff like steal do it and are dishonest. But the economy has a lot to do with it and I think there is an evil presence that was here before, but just got worse.

    I don’t think it’s going to get any better.

    1. It is really hard for us as parents who want to protect our children to know that we can’t always. My family’s experience has shown us that. It’s been a long two years to get to this point.

      I think there is a lot of truth in what you say Lisa. Our children will just have to be more aware and street cred when they’re not home. If that means making different decisions on their social time, then so be it.

  2. I agree with Lisa completely.

    My mum tells me stories about England 50 or so years ago when you didn’t lock your doors and your neighbours would look after your children. I know its easy to look back with a nostalgic eye, but I have no doubt the world we live in now is a VERY different place and I have to say a much more selfish place.

    It would be nice to find a little village to live in, somewhere where they are still cut off from the worst excesses of society and those values of yesterday are still important.

    1. I agree with both you and Lisa.

      I hear what you say about village life. Villages are not tainted in the same way cities are; but I still feel we all have to be vigilant wherever we live, or wherever we go.

      No one can afford to be complacent any more. Those times are long gone.

  3. Yes, it is pretty sad that children today need to be more vigilant than ever to be able to stay safe. I grew up being forced out into the world and have seen the worst of what humanity has to offer.

    It’s no wonder I ended up with PTSD and being hyper-vigilant. We now live in a world where people have become callous and cold where they only think of themselves.

    I know that is one major reason I don’t enjoy the thought of having to go back out into the world to have a life again. I’m hoping and praying that things can change in the future.

    1. I agree with you about the state of the world and us having to be more vigilant.

      I hope things get to change for you soon. You deserve it.

  4. It’s been a long time since posting here and this subject is very close to my heart as my son died due to the influences of society and the pressures to fit in and be one of the boys, nefarious characters with drugs and anger hand in hand. I have decided to make a drastic step and do something hand in hand with the police.

    It’s certainly not the society I grew up in but I find it a responsibility to work towards cleaning up the streets in the rough neighborhood I came from. I moved into the thick of it and it’s certainly a dangerous mission but maybe I can save at least one kid that won’t end up a predator.

    I hope you are all doing well and hope you will allow me to keep you informed of my progress.

    1. It’s wonderful that you’re using your personal experiences to do what you’re doing to help kids turn their lives around. Very inspirational.

      Please do let us know your progress. I’m delighted to see you back on site.

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