I was thinking about my inner child the other day and wondered whether our inner child affected by our past? I believe the answer is Yes. I believe that whatever we see or get to experience in our formative years, we begin to store those inwardly.
If we’re told we’re useless, we begin to believe we’re useless, if we’re not told we’re loved, we begin to question our ability to be loved and then to love. Sadly, our inner child begins to believe everything it’s told.
I also believe that on a subconscious level our behaviour will affect our relationships. It’s never a conscious decision. We don’t wake up one day and tell ourselves we’re going to be angry towards the people we love. The kind of behaviour I am talking about comes from years of seeing other people’s bad behaviour, which is then stored in our subconscious, played out through our conscious.
I think that when we begin to understand other people’s behaviour, then we will begin to see that the pain we carry is not actually our pain to carry. The pain we feel is the pain we feel because of the way others have behaved with us. I believe it’s called guilt and it’s someone else’s guilt.
Correcting our past
As we begin to correct our past, the void once left inside of us slowly begins to be filled with compassion; love and understanding that we can be those things. Only then will we begin to see that our inner child is special, that our inner child is loved and that our inner child is capable of love.
As we begin to love our inner child, we begin to love ourselves as we slowly begin to let go of the past. When we give hope back to our inner child we give hope to ourselves for a better future, a future without history having to repeat itself on those we love.