I believe that whatever we see or get to experience in our formative years, our inner child will always be affected. That what we see, or experience will always be part of our inner child.
If we’re told we’re useless, we begin to believe we’re useless, if we’re not told we’re loved, we begin to question our ability to be loved and to love. Sadly, our inner child begins to believe everything it’s told.
I also believe that on a subconscious level our behaviour will affect our relationships. We don’t wake up one day and tell ourselves we’re going to be angry. The behaviour I’m talking about comes from years of seeing other people’s bad behaviour, which is stored in our subconscious, played out through our conscious.
That when we come to understand other people’s behaviour, then we will see that the pain we’re carrying is not actually our pain to carry. The pain we feel is because of the way others have behaved with us. It’s called guilt and it’s someone else’s guilt.
As we begin to correct our past, the void once left inside of us slowly begins to be filled with compassion, love and understanding that we can emulate those things. Only then will we begin to see that our inner child is special, that our inner child is loved and that our inner child is capable of love.
As we begin to love our inner child, we begin to love ourselves. When we give hope back to our inner child we give hope to ourselves for a better future.