Our parents’ parenting

As a child I had no idea about life and about my parents’ role, I just assumed they looked after and cared for me and that they had my best interests at heart. Some of us may be conditioned from an early age to accept the life our parents choose for us. Parents often parent the way they have been taught and the cycle continues and that’s not always good.

After my parents’ way of parenting, having children of my own, made me more aware of my own parenting. Children should be encouraged to make their own choices and way in life, with a little support and guidance from their parents, but ultimately the parents should not use control as a means of parenting.

For myself, I always try to use encouragement and positivity as a means of communication and although I follow spiritual values that bring more clarity into my decisions and my life and for my children too, I don’t insist my children follow my spiritual path.

I would like to think that some of the values associated with my own spiritual beliefs, which are part of what the universe tells us, such as understanding, sincerity, empathy, compassion and loyalty, are ones that my children will want to embrace too, further on in their lives.

But having lived on the other side of the coin, I still don’t believe it’s right for any parent to force their child’s hand.


10 Jan, 2012

6 thoughts on “Our parents’ parenting

  1. My parents tried to overprotect me because of my CP, but in time one must find their own way in life.

    Everyone must find what makes them happy content and fulfilled as a person. That is what life is all about, being happy.

  2. I followed my parents beliefs for a long time, but when I was a teen, rebelled against it and then figured out I was wrong in doing so, but that’s the life of a teen. We have to get out and experience life.

    I just got mixed in with the wrong crowd. I kind of follow my parents beliefs now to a certain extent. I think as we grow we learn develop our own beliefs.

    1. It’s amazing Lisa how you came back full circle.

      I’m sure you must have put your parents’ through hell as a consequence of your actions, but it’s often the way we have to learn sometimes.

  3. It has taken me a long time to realise that I was still living by my parents’ belief system.

    Now at this point I’m just trying to figure out what my belief system is. I’m hoping that I can change things for the better in the future!

    1. Recognising your parents’ beliefs as your own is half the battle. No reason why you cannot change your beliefs Randy.

      It should come, give yourself time to work things out.

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