As a child I had no idea about life and about my parents’ role, I just assumed they looked after and cared for me and thought they always had my best interests at heart. Looking back my belief system for so long before I set to make my own changes, were my parents’ beliefs.
Some of us are conditioned from an early age to accept a life our parents choose for us. Some parents parent the way they have been taught and so the cycle continues, but I have always thought it unfair to inflict choices on to our children, because it might be right for us.
Having children of my own has made me more aware of my own parenting skills and how to do things differently, but that’s not how all new parents will go on to parent. I believe children should be encouraged to make their own choices with the help of parental support.
I always try to use encouragement and positivity as a means of communication and although I follow spiritual values that bring more clarity into my decisions, for my children too, I don’t insist my children follow that path.
I would like to think that some of the values associated with my own spiritual beliefs, such as simplicity; understanding; sincerity; empathy; compassion and loyalty are ones that my children will embrace too further on in their lives.
But I believe all of these, need to be of their own choosing. I don’t believe it’s right for any parent to force their hand.