Outside influences & parenting

My own experiences of being parented as a child weren’t positive, but as a parent myself I have worked hard to change things.

Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs we’ll ever do. There are many challenges associated with being a parent. We play a big but very important role in our children’s lives. Even before our children go to school we are their teachers, so it’s important we get the parenting thing right.

As parents’ we have the capabilities to influence our children in positive ways. I have talked about my own childhood and although I am 100% more positive in my approach to my own children, it would always be easier for us to parent the way our parents have parented us and their parents before them. We parent what we have seen.

But it’s important children know how to behave and communicate, helping them to grow into responsible and well-balanced adults. A correct approach from an early age helps them overcome any obstacles, challenges and barriers they encounter, and it starts with us.

But it becomes a constant battle for parents like myself, to compete with outside influences such as school, extended families and society. As soon as my children started school, I began to see a difference in their behaviour through other people’s input. If the input isn’t positive, it’s us who have an uphill struggle.

Teachers play a pivotal role in children’s lives too, so it’s important they’re on the same page as the parent; but ultimately any corrections lie with the parent. When something goes array and others are responsible, it’s us who sadly become responsible.


7 Dec, 2010

6 thoughts on “Outside influences & parenting

  1. I agree, in today’s society it is so different and more difficult to be a parent. People expect more of people and to be able to keep up and respond properly to others children’ needs, to be trained up from an early age.

    It was difficult with my child due to her having add and other learning disabilities. She wasn’t around other kids her own age, mostly adults so she didn’t learn to communicate well with others… and teachers, don’t even get me started.

    Most of Sarah’s teachers were only interested in students that made them look good, like straight A students. They didn’t have time to help a child that was struggling. I had one teacher, tell me she didn’t have time to spend with my child to help her.

    But I know there are some good one’s out there like my sister who teaches special needs children.

    1. Lisa so sorry that you got caught up in the school system like this. You are right though in what you say, there are good and bad people who work in every profession, doctors, nurses and teachers.

      I also fell foul to the system and although my teachers didn’t go out of their way to stop teaching me, they didn’t pick up on the fact that I was struggling with poor grades and left me to struggle.

      In every profession there should and needs to be more accountability.

  2. Great post! Outside influences on ones parenting are from my own experience dangerous, particularly family or even peers. While motives may be harmless the influences rarely are and can be long lasting. That desert island looks more attractive by the minute!

    1. I do agree that family and peers in particular can have an effect on family members and you are completely right about those influences, although we don’t often see them first hand, children can sometimes be taken in by them.

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