Dealing with issues will always come first, but did you know that dealing with issues for an extended period of time may eventually affect our ability to cope? That the less we learn from childhood, the more anxiety and stress we will have. It all stems from our parents.
As parents, it’s only natural that we would want to mollycoddle and protect our children from the harsh realities of life. That happened to me, but it had nothing to do with my Cerebral Palsy and whilst I don’t agree with completely throwing children in at the deep end, I do believe we have to strike a balance so that children learn and understand how to function independently on their own two feet.
Our inability to cope comes from not knowing how to adapt into our lives. As children when we’re constantly being told we’re great and that what we do is great that doesn’t instill confidence, if anything it tends to have the opposite effect on us. Children need the support and to be encouraged to think for themselves, or they will fail to understand how to adapt into their lives, to deal with what they have to deal with.
As parents, it’s our job to point the finer details out in a way that doesn’t belittle our children. As long as children understand where and why they’re going wrong, they will always learn to get back up on their feet and try again. No parent wants their child to struggle of course, but even children must learn to overcome hardships through a small element of struggle.
I also believe our ability to cope come through small elements of struggle, when we begin to learn everything we need to know about ourselves. It’s how we learn.